What is SEX?


A 2nd grade boy came home from school and asked his dad, “Hey Dad, what is sex.” It was a question the dad knew might pop up. Nevertheless it took him a little off guard. But he was determined to be straightforward with his son, and since the boy was asking, he took in a deep breath…

“Well son, when your mommy and I fell in love and got married, we wanted to have children, so we began having sex. Mommy and Daddy kissed each other and snuggled, and when you get older I’ll tell you more about what happened next.” Since the dad had heard it was always a good thing to make sex answers “age appropriate,” he decided to save the rest of the story for another time.

But when he finished, his son had a perplexed look on his face. Thinking maybe he had said something that upset the boy, Dad asked him if he understood. “Ya, I guess,” the boy mumbled, “but I don’t know how I’m going to write all that in the little box on the summer camp application where it says ‘sex: M or F.'”

This story reminded me of the proverb, “Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish” (Proverbs 18:13). It’s too easy to spout off with the first thing that comes to our mind, only later to discover that we missed the point, sometimes in a big way.

In a phone conversation with Mike Fendley (Family Life Today) a few weeks ago, Mike did something I don’t think I had ever experienced in a conversation. In the middle of a sentence, he paused…long enough that I wondered if he was still there. So I asked him. He told me he was still there, and that he had paused for just a moment to be sure he was saying what the Spirit was leading him to say. As you can imagine, I was all ears. Something within my spirit was quickened in an unusual way as I listened to what Mike was prompted to say. And the conversation produced fruit, like for instance this blog ~ rodandrose.com ~ as a result of Mike’s encouragement to get on with the things God had put in my heart to do.

Apart from the leading of God’s Spirit, much of our “conversation” is nothing more than flapping lips. So we need to be still long enough to understand the need, or the question. And when we respond, let’s be still–and patient–and wait on the leading of the Spirit. Possibly those we  talk with will be able to tell our words are not our own…and may the Lord bless our conversations with the fruit of changed lives that glorify our amazing God.

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